Sexually Suppressed Societies and Internet Pornography

Google enables anyone to quantify almost anything – what people are worried about, what people want to buy, what they do buy, what they want to learn, etc. And then, you can cross that information with almost any other parameter, such as geography. So if you want to know where people consume the most pornography, Google can actually supply that information – within seconds. A trend that has been noticed concerns the search for porn and sex related Internet content. It is commonly understood that pornography content is one of the most sought after types of Internet content worldwide. But in which regions and countries is it MOST searched?

While the answer may surprise many, it does not surprise psychologists and researchers. At the top of the lists for porn related search are Muslim countries like Eqypt, Algeria and Pakistan. In the US, there are more searches for porn in States such as Utah. In societies that tend to be more repressed in their sexual attitudes, it appears that people are driven to seeking information and exposure online.

In a study done by a Harvard University affiliated group in 2009, it was found that in the US, states where a majority of residents agreed with the statement “I have old-fashioned values about family and marriage,” bought 3.6 more pornography subscriptions per thousand people than states where a majority disagreed with that statement.

“Over half of internet users in Iran have admitted searching for porn and about one third of them do it every day,” says Saeed Madani, a sociologist in Tehran. Note that in Iran, pornography is illegal and just last year, many arrests were made of suspects accused of running pornography websites. Iranian boys and girls are banned from socializing freely and demand for online adult content has exploded there.

Psychologists in these kinds of communities, where harsh laws are enacted to try to eliminate sexual content or access to it, find that many people suffer from extreme sexual problems caused by years of suppression and fear.

So what can be concluded or from this information? On one hand, it appears that enacting laws to try to prevent access to pornography is not working and is likely increasing the public’s demand for the pornography content. On the other hand, the availability of pornography and the widespread exposure is undoubtedly a danger to society’s sexual and mental health.

In societies that ban open relationships and do not allow any discussion of sexuality, even if it is educational, normal and healthy, the population is driven to seek information elsewhere. If the only available source for learning about sex, is pornography, the results can be catastrophic. So the conclusion is that indeed, something has to be done about eliminating access to pornography. But in parallel, it must be ensured that children, teens and adults all have access to the right kind of information at the right time in their life and in a highly accessible format. That would include parental guidance, sex education in school and Internet content that can enhance their understanding and remove the element of embarrassment they may be facing.

The Other Side of Pornography – Discover What’s Good About Porn

I’ve been hearing in the news a lot lately about all the bad things about pornography, so I thought I’d write a bit about what I think that people are overlooking.

I’d like to talk to you about the benefits of pornography, from a social and economic stand point.

Now, before I begin, I want to stress that I’m writing this from a purely professional stand point. I am NOT advocating pornography, I am NOT discussing the moral implications of pornography, I am NOT trying to tell everyone to start supporting pornography…

What I AM doing is trying to create a counter argument to the shadow cast on pornography in recent years, not necessarily because I believe it, but because I feel there are things that need to be said. In addition,

Again, I’d like to stress that I am NOT supporting pornography. To everything I say here there is a counter argument (another topic for another time), and you should keep that in mind. This is a purely educational article, designed to get you thinking.

So, without further ado, let’s talk about what’s GOOD about pornography.

Firstly, sexual education. More and more parents are pushing sexual education off on schools, simply because they’re uncomfortable dealing with it. As a result, more and more generations of kids are going through their pubescent years with an ignorance of sex, which in turn creates adults who are both sexually inept, and sexually unhealthy.

Pornography gives those adults a means of education, and satisfies the pubescent curiosity that goes completely unanswered throughout their teenage years because of their parents unwillingness to address sexuality, and the schools’ inability to adequately inform kids about the birds and the bees.

Second, economic stimulus. Now, I know that the porn industry is NOT the biggest industry in the world, but there are thousands of videos out there. There is a market for pornography, and that market isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, so why not profit from it? It provides jobs for men and women who may otherwise be unemployed. In the current economy every single job counts, and I can promise you that just about every model, though it may not be their ideal job, does appreciate the income.

Third, it’s legal. Remember how I just got done saying how models appreciate the income? Well, not only do they appreciate the income, but they appreciate that it’s legal. These are people who typically don’t know much else, and so they turn to something that they ARE good at, or that they think they can be good at, and try and make money from it. Now, I’m sure that you can think of a similar profession to pornographic modeling?

If you can’t, I’m referring to prostitution. Now, I’m not in any way saying that every single pornographic model would be a prostitute if they didn’t do porn, but I can guarantee you that at least a small percentage would be. In that way, porn is really helping those women out, by providing a safe, and much more reliable, profession.

Which brings me to my last point…

Pornography is safe for the models. There are very strict regulations about porn, and STDs are stopped before they begin. I’m not saying there aren’t exceptions, people always find ways around the rules, but what I am saying is that pornography is no more dangerous than, say, construction, or some other manual labor profession. This is certainly a benefit…porn is only becoming safer, which is a good thing for the models.

I hope that I’ve opened your eyes up to some of the unspoken benefits of pornography. Once again, I am not in any way supporting pornography, I am not saying people should look at it, I am not saying it’s a good influence…I AM saying that there are benefits that people are choosing to ignore, and so I’m doing my best to bring them to light.

Avoiding Internet Pornography

Pornography is a multi billion dollar industry. There is a constant production of lewd movies, images & sex tools because there is so much worldwide demand for it. The advancement of internet technology allows pornographic streaming videos to be downloaded quickly from the internet onto computers & hand held devices.

Pornography is considered as Adult entertainment & deemed normal by liberal minded people. However, child pornography is illegal & scorned. All actors in a pornography production must be over the legal age of 18 years old. Also, people below 18 years of age are not allowed (albeit minimally enforced) to view pornography both online & in the real world.

Could the ease of exposure to internet pornography contribute to young children becoming sexually active? Recent statistics shows that 9 out of 10 children between the age of 8 and 16 actually visit pornographic sites over the internet. There have also been stories of children engaging in co-ed sex parties & orgies. It suggests that internet pornography is playing a part in building sexual curiosity in children at such an early age. Is it what we want for our children? Small children are human beings too and can also be naturally aroused sexually. However, children are more susceptible to misunderstand the complexities associated with performing sexual activities like pregnancy & sexually transmitted diseases (S.T.D.).

It is in reality not the problem of children actually visiting pornographic websites but instead lies in the issue of them being accidentally directed to such “adult” websites. A recent survey done by the University of Hampshire achieved similar results. “66 percent said that they did not want to view the images & had not sought them out”, said the researcher.

A pornographic website may even be only a mouse click away. Banners, links, spam emails & other forms of online marketing are being misused as tools to lure even the most innocent of internet users. There are ways to prohibit pornographic content from being displayed even in the event of an accidental mouse click.

Commercial softwares termed Parental Control Softwares like Cyber Sentinel, Cyber Snoop, ishield, Net Nanny 5, & Optenet are able to filter images & advertisements of pornographic nature. It can help in such a way to prevent our children from being led into pornographic websites.

However, parental control softwares are still unable to fully prevent online pornography from being presented to our children online. More & better measures are required to restrict the use of sophisticated methods of online pornography marketing.

Therefore, parents should play an active role in educating their children about the consequences of viewing internet pornography. We should inform our children & show them about what they can & should not do on the internet. Also, inform them to question their actions before clicking on seductive advertisements which may lead them to the illicit pornographic websites.

Keep Away Pornography From Homes

With the advent of the internet, there is much unwanted adult content and pornography. These materials have grave negative implications for children, parents, spouses, and the family at large. Previously, matters of sex were relegated to the bedroom and brothels. People shied away from discussing or displaying sexual passion in public. Today, unwanted adult content is readily accessible, even through mobile phones.

Society should be apprehensive when unwanted online adult content and pornography falls into the hands of children. While it is a fact that children will, at one stage in their lives, come to comprehend sex, it is the nature and age of orientation that are perturbing. Sex is pleasurable and addictive to some extent. However, this is not what we desire for human beings in their formative years to embrace. Every person undergoes a systematic developmental process and sex has its moment, which is definitely not childhood. We need to allow children to enjoy their innocence, and to grow naturally into adulthood.

Unwanted online adult content and pornography may appear to the casual eye as being beneficial to couples, but that is far from the reality. It is factual that couples can learn several techniques on how to give one another pleasure when having sexual intercourse, after they watch this kind of content. However, adult material is likely to foment discontent in marriages or relationships since either or both of the partners may develop unrealistic sexual expectation from the other. It should always be borne in mind that the people portrayed in pornography videos are actually actors, who are trained to exaggerate the acts and effects of sex. Couples trying this at home will only be disillusioned, and may resort to infidelity in search of elusive sexual pleasure. Pornography may destroy marriage instead of building it.

The Destructive Path of Pornography Addiction

Many people don’t want to talk about pornography addiction. In fact, our society is beginning to embrace pornography as a normal way of life. What used to be a behind the alley shop is now a billboard promoting the “Largest Adult Bookstore” in town. What the heck is going on? Don’t people care?

The destructive path associated with pornography is clear. Marital relationships are at risk. Children are at risk. No child should be exposed to pornographic images, yet the average age children are being exposed in America is age 11. What eleven-year-old understands pornography? Not one of them understands why such images make them feel the way they do. Yet, this is the average age.

The pornography industry understands this. They target young children. They know that the earlier someone gets exposed to such images the more likely they are to develop an addiction. Did you know that researchers have found that the earlier someone is exposed to an addictive substance the more likely they are to become addicted to it? So what, is going to happen when a full generation of children have been exposed to pornography? Scary thought.

We are about fifteen years into the Internet generation. We are starting to see the societal ramifications of such easy access. While I don’t want to scare you, please go to Google and type in “pornography in the news” and follow some of the links to see what is happening around the country. Just read the headlines and you’ll get a feel for where our society is headed if we don’t start doing something about easy access to pornography.

If you followed some of the links you will see how pornography is moving into your neighborhood. There are more and more legal cases involving pornography.

Now let’s look at how pornography is influencing individuals and families. Below you will find three cases from people who have taken my online assessment “Assessing Pornography Addiction.” Below I have posted the question and the participants’ response.

July 10th, 2008-Married Man

Question: Please explain how pornography has impacted your life?

Answer: My wife is always angry

Question: Do you feel like you are addicted to pornography? Please explain your answer.

Answer: Sometimes. Other times I feel like it’s my wife’s fault.

My Comments:

This man indicates that his wife is always angry. Is it because of his pornography consumption? What do you think this marriage is like? Is this couple having any fun? No! Does he feel that he is addicted? Sometimes, but he is blaming his relationship with his wife for part of why he views pornography.

What would happen if he stopped viewing pornography? Would his wife become less angry? It sounds like this couple needs additional help. I don’t believe her anger is just about his consumption of pornography. However, we wouldn’t know that unless he was willing to seek help and work to overcome his pornography addiction.

His wife’s anger is easy to blame on his pornography use. However, she needs to figure out why she is so angry. Her anger will never bring them closer together. She does need to take a stand against his pornography use, but anger is not the best way to do so.

July 9th, 2008-Man in a serious relationship

Question: Please explain how pornography has impacted your life?

Answer: It has been my greatest down-fall. I’ve been addicted for a long time. I have tried to quit countless times and continue to struggle with it. I was able to quit once for a year and half which was awesome. It has impacted my life in relationships. I don’t really have any relationship with my parents. I’m currently in a relationship with a girl I love more than anything and because of pornography I realize how cold and desensitized I have become, and what a closed-up emotionally person I am. It has affected me physically in that I have battled depression for the past year since the pornography addiction has returned to my life. I also am unable to get an erection from proper stimulation — only when viewing pornography do I get an erection, so it has a big impact there on the physical side of my relationship.

Question: Do you feel like you are addicted to pornography? Please explain your answer.

Answer: Yes, I feel like I am very addicted to pornography. I keep telling myself that this time is the last. And I keep coming back. Sometimes I’m able to quit for a month, sometimes 2 or 3, but I keep falling back. I hate it but I can’t stop it.

My Comments:

How has pornography influenced this person’s life? He has a limited relationship with his parents. He feels that he is cold and desensitized in his relationships. He is more closed. He feels depressed because of pornography and it is influencing his sexual functioning. Pornography is having a significant impact on this man.

It is sad that someone who hates pornography so much feels like he cannot stop viewing it. I would want to know what this guy is doing to stop viewing pornography. Many people feel like they cannot stop. To such individuals I say you can stop. I have met with more than 200 individuals who have attempted to stop viewing pornography. While not all of them have succeeded, many of them are making great progress. I have seen many of them reclaim their identity. They no longer feel helpless and hopeless.

So we understand that this isn’t just a man’s issue here’s what one woman wrote.

July 5th, 2008

Question: Please explain how pornography has impacted your life?

Answer: I believe it has taken away some of my ability to feel emotionally.

Question: Do you feel like you are addicted to pornography? Please explain your answer.

Answer: Yes. Because I know I can’t stop.

My Comment:

I have talked with hundreds of people who have told me that pornography influences their emotions. Many feel that pornography influences their emotions (e.g. depression, shame, guilt). I often wonder why people feel guilty and shame when they view pornography. Some would say that society brings this negative feeling to individuals. However, I do not believe this is the case. I believe that intuitively we know that pornography is not good for us. Pornography creates a chemical high in individuals that changes how they think and feel.

Notice this woman’s response to the question do you feel that you are addicted, “Yes. Because I know I can’t stop.” How sad. During the past two years I have had around 5000 people take this test. As I have reviewed their responses, I have come to the conclusion that pornography is carving out a deep hole from the character of our society.

Read This Before Downloading Any Adult Sex Guide

The online world is actually inundated with adult sex guides. Just try searching for them on your favorite search engine and you are going to see such a lot of them waiting for you. They are all priced differently according to what they are supposed to contain and they contain different things as well. But, the point is, do you really need an adult sex guide?

The question you have to ask yourself is why you are looking for such a book to help you. Definitely the answer is that you are looking at improving your sexual performance. You are looking at giving your woman greater pleasure in bed. And you are hoping that the tantalizing sex guide you are looking forward to download will help you with it.

But, the fact is, no sex guide can help you if you don’t help yourself. These are some points you have to consider beforehand.

1. Good sex doesn’t come without a good equation with your partner. Yes, there are books that will train you in the pure art of carnal sex, but if you are in a long term committed relationship, then such a book won’t help you. Probably you will need a book that will tell you how to construct a better relationship with your partner than just some meaningless sex.

2. If you indulge in a great deal of foreplay, you can arouse your woman immensely. This is something that can really help you in what lies ahead. Maybe you won’t need the adult sex guide to spice up your act after that.

3. Another thing you have to consider is that you will need to actually implement the things that are mentioned in the guide if you want it to be effective for you. You cannot just read the book and then not implement it. Then it would be a futile exercise. In all probability the book is going to tell you about how you can have some more daring sexual experiences to make things more exciting-you have to be able to use that.

These are some of the things that you have to consider before downloading any adult sex guide. Will you be able to do it? That’s the question you have to answer.

How to Carefully Approach Adult Sex Dating

I think there comes a point when we have to stop being a society in denial. The internet is a place of all sorts and adult sex dating is one of the realities of the internet-dating world. Not everyone is looking for a relationship and not everyone is looking for a date to spend the night. There are some of us with a clear understanding of exactly what they want in life and I think I can applaud them for being honest with themselves. Dating sites that are specific about their intent and their demographic are quite readily available online, with varying names – some famous and some not.

They also are quite a few that cater to very specific sexual and niche interests, I mean the world is made up of all sorts and the internet has allowed them to find a place in the world where they can find like minded individuals who would be able to share their same likes and dislikes. Some of us have higher libidos than other’s and are much more comfortable with our own sexualities. This is the driving force behind these websites and dating services. It isn’t because that society has become perverted and that they need to run to the corners of the digital world to see their interests expressed.

It is much the other way around. Some of us have matured more than others and we need to see that human are murals of expression and we are built with different colours of the human spectrum. We cannot always have a negative thought to those who are honest about themselves, we cannot treat them as outcasts of society just because we cannot understand them. We must be patient, we must be accepting, we must be enlightened. Yes the adult sex dating scene is a dangerous world with potential stalkers and nefarious beings but these dating sites are pretty secure in their treatment of their subject matter. Privacy is at an all time high and the quality websites filter all the potential malware, scams, pornographic companies that try to infiltrate their databases to garner more business. Adult sex dating is all about the physical relationship and the discovery of both pleasure and physical attraction. But this does not mean that it cannot be pure.

There are those who will take advantage of the system and there are those who are in it because it is a part of their lifestyle. Normally, the end users of these websites will be able to weed out these individuals and get them banned. There are quite a few quality adult sex dating sites online and you can spot them because of the fact that they are discreet, offer a comprehensive security warning, have many pages of disclaimers and require that you complete and fill out a personal particulars form before you continue – one that has to be verified through email. These precautions and more are there to keep out the black hats and make adult sex dating a safer experience for those who would like to find an avenue to express themselves.